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Support and Encourage

 

It doesn’t matter if you are playing sports, are a kid or parent, have a job, are a stay at home parent, or are at the grocery store.  Kindness is key to survival and supporting each other is one of the best things we can do to leave this world in tact for our children.

I can think of many situations over the years to share, but there is a reason why they are in the past and have given me something to learn from.

We are not perfect, we may not believe in the act or logic of others and find it difficult to support their choices, however there is no need to ignore or be disrespectful to them.  Obviously if they are murderers, pedophiles, etc., you will not find many supporting those actions… I think you get my point.

What I am talking about is life. As my children are growing and are now teenagers and our lives are ever evolving, I am so much more in tune with the behaviors of others and teaching our children how to react to those behaviors.  As most of what they have learned is that the behaviors of others are usually issues within that person.

Recently I had observed two different scenarios that involved each of my children.  My youngest is in 7th grade, my oldest is a freshman and they both play for their school volleyball teams.  They have many friends on their teams that they have been friends with since elementary school, as well as played sports with.  As parents, we know most of these families.

I was attending my 7th graders game.  All of the players played a great game.  They were high-fiving and cheering each other on.  It was great to see them support each other, even when mistakes were made.  As an adult, you would expect to see most parents cheering on all of the players. Well, there was one parent who only cheered for her own child. As I observed from behind, it was an act that really disappointed me, yet realizing that maybe not many people probably noticed.  Especially the kids. However, this flood of emotion came over me and I realized I was letting the actions of this person destroy my inner peace.

Long story short, I did let it effect my joy in supporting all those kids.  It was noticed by other parents.  I let it get to me, because my child is friends with this parent’s child.  Which made me even more sad that an adult would behave in such a way.  In the big scheme of things, it really isn’t that detrimental.  It is merely an example of who not to be.

On to the freshman.  She has performed very strongly in volleyball and was asked to train and play with the JV team. She was very concerned about her teammates feelings and wasn’t sure if she wanted to accept the request.  Her kind heart was making this a difficult decision but also teaching her to take experiences and learn from them.  As we both have learned, when asked in high school sports, you just DO and figure it out along the way.

I was so proud of her teammates and parents in the support and encouragement she received.  There will always be feelings of jealousy or insecurity throughout their lives but to see how that was pushed aside and shown how to lift each other up with encouragement was pretty impressive. Due to her coming up to the JV team, the players brought their game up and the coaches felt she would have more play time and be of better value staying with the freshman team. A decision that she was happy about.
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No one is perfect. There’s always going to be somebody better than you at something. Why not learn, absorb and celebrate our differences and encourage each other. #getoveryourself

Monday Mantra – Better than Yesterday

I came across this quote during a time the girls were having ‘one of those days’ and it was a good reflection on the discussions we were having.

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Summer Break Ends as School Begins

It has been a busy summer and school starts tomorrow. This summer has been loads of fun and definitely used a lot of my energy and patience, but in a good way that allowed me to learn some new ways in dealing with tweens, sisters/siblings and friends. As with life, we don’t know everything, nothing is perfect, and we do our best at trying to continue the progress of a happy environment. Having two girls of my own and sometimes 2-4 extra girls each day of the week was, let’s just say… how do parents do it with more than two kids?!  ;) major kudos to y’all!

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Rides, Carnies and Music

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Yep, you guessed it.. Fair Time!! Every summer the Mid State Fair takes place in our home town.  Now, I or Jon are not ‘going to the fair type’ so we typically plan the kids vacation to the grandmas during the fair. To some of you that may seem quite selfish and a disservice to our kids, but when it is nearly triple digits and expensive to walk around in that kind of heat, it just isn’t how we want to spend our time together. Not to mention, the lack of food options and I wouldn’t expect anything different as it is the fair. Well this year, the kids are here during the time of the fair… yay!  However, one of the benefits of the fair are the concerts. There have been bands like Aerosmith, Toby Keith, John Mayer, Tim McGraw, Def Leppard, Keith Urban, Jason Aldean, Rascal Flatts, Kid Rock, Chicago and SO many more to name that perform and we can hear the concerts in the comfort of our home! :)  I have been to a couple concerts and they are fun, but there is something about sitting in my backyard or laying in bed and listening to the live music that is just so pleasant.

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Hungry for Life

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Over the years we have family, husbands/wives, friends, acquaintances near and far, co-workers and a plethora of people in and out of our lives. There are some that appear in our lives unexpectedly or have been there the entire time that teach us a little something about ourselves that we may not have known. Some are there to show us who we do not want to be.

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What would Messi do?

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Yesterday was Cinco de Mayo and we typically do not do much in celebrating it but we usually have some sort of Mexican food for dinner and maybe a margarita (as this tends to be one of the few times I drink those). I made some yummy Rolled Tacos and Frozen Strawberry Margarita treats (kids friendly) for our family. Jon and Ava have soccer training so they do not get home until after 7PM so Sierra and I eat before they do. Just one of those crazy nights we are not eating together but sit together when they come home to eat. After dinner Ava still had homework to complete and I wanted to take some of the treats down the street to our friends to try, I like taste testers other than my family. Our kids wanted to come so they could see their friends but that didn’t happen since homework was not completed.I ended up staying a lot later then I had planned, but it was great catching up with my friend. Continue reading

Be someone who laughs everyday

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Today the sun is a shining!  A glorious 75F and I am behind in my posts… but it is such a beautiful day to be outside so that is where I will be! Just me and the weeds :) until I head out for after school pick up. So today will be a simple, yet

Just the beginning

The driving force behind starting this website… family & life. There is so much I want to cover and share, I just need to start typing and see where it goes.  Please enjoy my random posts, recipes and information and I hope you find yourself learning, laughing and taking a new outlook on life. When